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2 Kinds of Guilt: Punishing vs. Productive

Guilt can be Good or Bad. There are Two (2) Kinds of Guilt: 1. Punishing Guilt -- when you're Trashing yourself and beating yourself up for something you did, or didn't do. 2. Productive Guilt -- when you are Learning your lesson, taking the consequences of your actions boldly and maturely, and vowing inside yourself to Learn from your experience...

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It’s Up to You

To the question of your life, you are the only answer. To the problems of your life, you are the only solution. Nobody can fix you but you. Nobody can make you happy but you. Nobody can even help you but you. It’s up to you. What if everything that happened to you, and even everything around you, was there...

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Emotional Awareness Gives Us Choices!

"I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become." - Carl Jung We all have had bad stuff happen to us, and events that cause us emotional pain and anger. HOWEVER, we get to CHOOSE what we DO with our feelings, emotions and belief systems! We can: Generalize Victimize Blame Whine be Broken or, we...

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Self-Acceptance

I must learn to love the fool in me. The one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes & loses often, lacks self-control, loves & hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises & breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbor and who would...

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Happy Birthday to the Late Great "coach t”

"I decided that my work (as a coach and writer) was something that I wanted to do for the rest of my life. And enjoying my 3 best friends. Having a dog, (currently a Maltese named Fringe). Being a nice person forever, no matter what someone says or does. Constantly experimenting with new ideas and creative mediums. Being nourished by...

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EQ is the Bomb!!

If we wanna be Happy, we HAVE to get in touch with our feelings and emotions! (no matter how uncomfortable it can be at times.) If we wanna be Successful, we HAVE to get in touch with our feelings and emotions! (or we can't be Real, even with ourselves.) If we wanna be Powerful, we HAVE to get in touch...

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How to ‘Process’ out Negative Feelings

Step 1. Awareness Step 2. Acceptance Step 3. Feel and Release Step 4. Refresh and Rejoice! "We gotta Feel it to Heal it!" To ‘really’ get into your Feelings, ask yourself these 3 questions (slowly). 1. Who or what are Hurt you the most? 2. Who or what are you most Afraid of? 3. Who or what are you Angry...

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Blogging, the Blog Squad Way

I went to a presentation this morning at the Mendocino Coast Writer’s Conference where Denise Wakeman described how to effectively manage Social Media. “If you can’t be found online, you don’t exist.” Main Points: Make the Blog the main focal point of our “platform”. Use Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn as tools to drive traffic to the blog. Be “Consistent and...

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Feel It to Heal It.

We've found ways to safely & profoundly Feel & Release big negative feelings, both past and present, to bring Relief (often permanently). These concepts were first developed by Alfred Adler, Sigmund Freud's partner. Adler found babies are born "clean" - happy, powerful, totally in touch with emotions - but pain builds as we grow and is stuffed in our body...

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It’s about us!

To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” - Robert Muller Forgiveness is for US, not so much for the person we’re forgiving! Love is for US, not as much for the person we’re loving! Giving is for US, not as much for the person who is receiving! conclusion:...

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We Are The World

Here’s one of the greatest songs ever recorded! I just found this link on Twitter yesterday, but I’ve now listened to it about 10x, REALLY LOUD… and it still gives me chills (with all those amazing artists, it’s Cyndy Lauper’s climax that always gets me!). I saved it as a Favorite, for an instant pick-me-up and to remind me what...

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Great Quotes

“BITTERNESS is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But ANGER is like fire. It burns all clean.” - Maya Angelou “Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we might as well DANCE!” - Maya Angelou “The honorary duty of a human being is to love.” - Maya Angelou “History, despite its wrenching pain,...

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emotional intelligence test

Here’s a quick, 7-question quiz, to determine your basic level of EQ. How well do you deal with your Feelings and Emotions? Rate yourself between 1 and 5 in each of the following seven areas. 1: not at all 3: so-so 5: totally and completely 1. Awareness When your body feels something (fear, anger, sadness, shame, guilt, etc), how much...

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love

what indeed is love? a warm and tender feeling in the pit of your stomach? a feeling of compassion for another? all the above and much much more . from the rays of sunshine on your face to the breaching of a whale and the sound of a baby cooing and laughing . it is what connects us to one...

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